Discover Your Inborn Biological Confidence

Most of us including me were born with average confidence. Unfortunately, average confidence is awful. I made even unimportant speeches with a queasy stomach and shaky knees, no matter how many times I told myself, “There’s no reason to be nervous.” My armpits would get so sweaty a goldfish could live in them and even enjoy the current. Over the years there were many girls I didn’t have the courage to ask out, many parties and sports I couldn’t relax and fully enjoy, many business opportunities I lacked the confidence to take, many nights I laid awake second-guessing my decisions. I wasted many days, worrying, unable to relax and believe that my own worth, strength, and talent would carry me through.

Would you like to feel the confidence that erupted inside NBA superstar Michael Jordan when he convinced coach Phil Jackson to let him take a last-second win or lose shot, by saying, “Phil, God destined me to make this shot!”

Would you be happier and more successful if you could meet your daily challenges with that kind of faith in yourself?

Watch Michael Jordan describe his confidence in this clip from his wonderful DVD, Come Fly with Me. “If I get the ball, you’re at the mercy of whatever I want to do, and there is nothing you can say or do about it. The feeling is I own the ball, I own the game, I own the guy who’s guarding me. I can actually play him like a puppet.”

You can’t learn or earn this instinctive self-confidence, and it has nothing to do with how you were raised, how successful you’ve been, or how positively you think about yourself.

It’s like hunger—so deeply and permanently part of our nature that it’s undamaged by even lifelong neglect, failure, or criticism.

My new theory contends that our ancestors’ tribes survived because most of them were born programmed to possess giant confidence but, also, to suppress it most of the time so that some rose to alpha status and led while the rest cooperated to help unify the tribe.

That primitive emotional programming worked pretty well to suppress our impulses before we developed big rational brains to help us control ourselves. Today, this archaic control system in our emotional brain generates unnecessary self-doubt, self-criticism, and other insecurities. Now, it’s time to release our inborn confidence to help us thrive.

To get this ancient, preverbal emotional suppressive system to stop paralyzing your confidence, you can’t use traditional thinking approaches because this system isn’t in the smart, thinking part of your brain and doesn’t understand concepts and language; just pictures and feelings. That’s why I spent the last 20 years designing and clinically testing my program of easy visualizations to be simple enough to teach your emotional brain to get comfortable with and release your inborn confidence.

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A fascinating read combining enlightening theory with meticulously gathered clinical evidence, well-crafted exercises, and inspiring cases of people uncovering hidden confidence . . . a revolutionary, clinically-tested approach that can change your life.
Charles L. Sheridan, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus, Psychology Department, University of Missouri – Kansas City, author of five books, including Health Psychology, and the blog,


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